Survivors

The disaster was a terrifying experience that left heartache, destruction and death in its path. But somehow, some way, you were able to survive its devastation. You stayed informed about the threatening conditions, made difficult decisions, and took action to safeguard yourself and others. In spite of the shock and suffering that you endured, you are now beginning to move on with your life.

Reaching Out

You are not alone in this crisis. You probably have discovered already that there are people who want to offer their help in your hour of need. Friends, relatives, neighbors, members of your congregation, community agency workers, volunteers, and even strangers can be our lifelines in troubled times.

Making Meaning

We human beings are the only creatures who make meaning. Especially in you're in an emergency situation, you try to sort out the "who, what, when, where, how and why." You want whatever information you need to make sense of this chaos and confusion. You want answers to the important questions you have. How did this disaster happen? What can I do to protect my family? You also want answers to even more important questions. Why did this happen? What lessons can I learn from this? How can I handle this? Tell your story...

Taking Heart

This disaster may have been the worst experience you have ever had in your life, so it's no wonder that you have been going through intense and painful emotions. When faced with dangers, people react with shock, terror and fear. When confronted with heart-breaking losses, they cry out in grief and sorrow. And when they're struggling with frustrations, they become angered and enraged.

Of course, these emotions are essential in keeping you energized, determined and focused as you confront the hazards, perils and risks of a disaster. Somehow, you used these emotions in ways that got you through these terrible situations. Now that you no longer need these intense emotions, look for ways to calm your anxieties, ease your distress, and find some peace of mind. Take time for yourself, go on walks, take breaks, spend time in prayer, reflection or meditation.

In addition to the negative emotions you had during the disaster, you also experienced positive feelings. These feelings of resolve are just as essential in carrying you through troubled times. Along with the anger and frustration, you felt greater compassion and love for your fellow human beings. You might find yourself taking heart in the quiet acts of dedication and valor you and other survivors committed. You may be taking care to celebrate your love for your family and friends. And you may restore hope by savoring the simple joys that life still has to offer.

Anne Stewart with Tsunami survivors in Sri Lanka.

Moving On

As frightening as the disaster was, the day-in and day-out work of cleaning up, dealing with bureaucracies, and rebuilding is full of stress. Some days, you probably feel just plain sick and tired of feeling sick and tired. How have you been able to cope with these daily hassles and challenges? What are your dreams for the future that keep you energized? What ways have you found to keep up your spirits?

Getting Help

All people have resilience, but if you have had a devastating loss you may want additional help. If you're having extreme reactions, such as repeated nightmares, flashbacks, crying spells, or panic reactions, get help. Contact the Harrisonburg-Rockingham Community Services Board, 1241 North Main Street Harrisonburg, VA 22802. 540.434.1941